Sweet little Violet Jude has entered our lives and our hearts. And in quite a dramatic manner. It was love before first sight. There was no doubt in my mind about that. But my heart definitely melted a little bit more when I saw her beautiful, perfect face.
|with help from Jeff & my mom|
|Lilly having much needed Daddy time|
|using a Rebozo during contractions|
|big sister Lilly, Rochelle & Natalie checking out Violet|
|such a sweet photo! Lilly & Grandma (&us in the background). She was mimicking my breathing.|
We made it to the birth center sometime after 7am. I was 6cm. We got settled in to the room which happened to be the same room we used when we had Lilly. There to assist was RN Judy and CNM Judy--the same midwife that delivered Lilly. How cool!! We were very excited about this. All of the midwives at the birth center are absolutely wonderful but it was so meaningful that Judy was by our side with both of our babies, offering her calming, kind words and gentle touch.
|letting me hang & my back stretch|
|getting some Lilly kisses between contractions|
|CNM Judy talking to me about the option of breaking my water.|
Seconds turned into minutes. Minutes turned into hours. There was constant rotation of loving hands rubbing my head, legs, belly; placing a cold rag on my neck when I got hot, placing a blanket over my chilled body when I fluctuated between hot and cold. Everyone--Jeffrey, my mom, Judy (& I think even Launie at one point) was there to make me as comfortable as possible. I think it was sometime after 2pm and Judy asked if I would like her to break my water. I thought about it for a while and after more contractions I decided to let her. It was a pretty intense gush, but nothing in comparison to last time. I then decided to go into the shower again. The instance the water touched my skin I felt the urge to push. My body said "let's do this" but my head was thinking "wait a second! What if your cervix isn't ready. It wasn't ready a minute ago! What if you damage something by pushing too soon?!" Silly brain. Jeff ran to get the midwife and tell her I was feeling the urge. She joined us in the bathroom and said if I want to push then I can and I can have this baby in the bathroom if I needed to! I had a few more contractions and then decided to waddle back to our room so I could NOT have the baby in the bathroom. LOL.
|curiosity. Lilly's close up view as I pushed.|
This all happened VERY quickly (2minutes and 20 seconds to be exact). But after watching the video I can see that for those watching, it may have seemed like an eternity. The reason for the urgency was that Violet's head was out, but her shoulders got stuck. And she was turning more and more purple by the nanosecond. Never once did anyone lose their cool. All were nothing but professional. Judy never once took her hands off Violet's head, even when they rotated my body. But you could see the look of seriousness in Judy's face when she motioned for Fran's assistance. You can hear the despair in my mom's voice as she encouraged me to push while simultaneously recorded the birth, choked back tears and tried not to completely freak out!
|Violet & Launie (beloved friend & photog of the day:)|
Everyone let out a sigh of relief, tears of joy flowed and smiles drew over everyone's faces. Midwife Fran comforted my mom with a warming hug--which meant the world to me! Now we needed to come up with a name for this sweet bundle of joy! We weren't sure of a name yet, as we didn't know if we were having a boy or a girl. We had a few names picked out, but nothing was 100% sure. As soon as she was born we knew we were going with Violet as a first name. She was a beautiful little flower (and also purple in color so it was VERY fitting). But we were still up in arms about the middle name.
|our new family :)|
Later that evening, Jeff suggested Jude. It was perfect! Both the nurse and midwife were named Judy, he had heard them call eachother "Jude", the midwife was the same that welcomed Lilly into our world, plus my mom has an obsession with the Beatles that has trickled over into my life. It just seemed right. Violet became Violet Jude.
|Violet on Daddy as I got a couple stitches|
After much thought, I decided not to share the "scary" part of the video. It was just too intense and ultra personal. Everything turned out perfectly and I want to remember it that way. Here is the edited version, though there are still parts of me that those close to me may have never invisioned seeing. Consider yourself warned;)